Tips on Making a Successful Adoption Plan


Are you pregnant and considering adoption?  Or have you already delivered?  Either way, we recommend making an adoption plan.  An adoption plan is a living record that states your desires for the adoption process. It starts with choosing the type of adoption that works best for your needs and the needs of your child.

Types of Adoption to Consider

Maybe you desire an open adoption that allows you some contact with your child after placement as well as periodic updates from the Adoptive Parents. You decide how much personal contact, social media contact, emails, phone calls, photos, and other types of contact feel comfortable in your current situation. Although the Adoptive Parents have some say in the matter as well, they agree to respect your wishes when choosing an open adoption.

Contact is much more limited with a semi-open adoption. You and the Adoptive Parents likely know each other’s names and will meet at least one time at the placement. Adoption agencies require that an Adoptive Family commit to a minimum amount of Post Placement Contact. You can expect to receive an update once a month for the first year and then 2x per year until your child is 18. 
In the rare request of a closed adoption, there is no exchange of information.  

How Do I Write an Adoption Plan?

When you’re ready to create an adoption plan, we recommend including your preference for how much contact you would like to have with your child after placement as one of the first items. Answering the questions below as honestly as possible can help clarify the type of adoption you want if you’re feeling uncertain.

  • Do you want updates on how your child is doing? If so, how often would you prefer them?
  • Do you prefer to receive updates by mail, text, through social media, personal contact, phone, another method, or a combination of these methods?
  • Would you like any of your family members to have the opportunity to meet your child?
  • How do you think receiving regular updates about your child will affect you on an emotional level?
  • How might you react if your child wants to increase or decrease contact as he or she ages?

After careful consideration of the above, it’s time for you to choose an Adoptive Family for your baby. You will find detailed biographies of hopeful Adoptive Couples on our website. Our agency will help to arrange meetings between you and the Adoptive Family with your social worker present.  These meetings typically takes place at a restaurant that is convenient for you.  You will not be asked to travel. Your social worker is always available to help you work with the Adoptive Parents you choose and create an adoption plan that works best for all parties involved.

Your adoption plan should also include a birth plan for when you deliver your baby. You also get to decide who will accompany you to the hospital and have visitation rights while you remain a patient. Don’t forget to include a plan for after discharge from the hospital, including how to move on after placing your child for adoption. Our staff is happy to connect you with as many resources as you need to help you move forward.

Christina Swanson

Christina is a professional blog writer that has a big heart for adoption. Choosing life for your baby is one of the greatest decisions you can ever make. This blog is here as a resource to pregnant women and families who are considering adoption or somewhere along the road of their journey.

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