What if I’m pregnant and don’t want the baby?


Finding out that you are unexpectedly pregnant can be one of the biggest challenges you ever faced in your life. The thing you have to remember the most is that you have options. No matter what type of support system you have, just know that you have options in this is your baby and your choice. Don’t ever let anyone let you forget that fact. So at the end of the day, you’re still wondering what do I do if I’m pregnant and I don’t want to be?

The answer is simple. You can either choose to parent your baby choose an abortion or consider adoption. Although these options may seem difficult, the three most common options available to a woman that is facing an unplanned pregnancy.

Is it normal not to want to be pregnant?

One of the first things you have to realize is that not wanting to be pregnant is perfectly normal. There is absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting to be pregnant. The bottom line when it comes to your pregnancy and your health is making the right decision and sometimes that just takes time. All women deserve the best option for themselves and their babies when facing an unexpected and unwanted pregnancy. Whether you choose to parent or choose an abortion or choose to find a family to raise your child it’s your choice and you should not feel judged by whichever direction you decide to go.


Can I leave my baby at the hospital if I don’t want it?

Every state has different options when it comes to leaving your unwanted baby at the hospital after birth. It is highly recommended to contact a local adoption agency or social worker for more details on how you can best choose to surrender your rights to pairing your child. Often times choosing an adoptive family before birth is the easiest option if you desire adoption for your baby. Whether you have months weeks days or just hours before your baby is born you know that you still have time to make an adoption plan. yes, it’s true that with adoption it can feel like hard decisions need to be made when it comes to finding the perfect family for your child. Finding adoptive parents might seem like a difficult task but there are hundreds if not thousands of waiting adoptive parents with your child’s best interest in mind ready to take them to their loving home. At the end of the day no matter what you choose having the best life possible for your baby is the most selfless decision possible. Make that clear not selfish but selfless decision you can choose. Putting your baby’s life before your own is the most powerful thing a woman can possibly do.

What if I’m pregnant but don’t want it?

The question isn’t necessarily what do you do if you don’t want it meaning the baby but rather do not want the pregnancy itself. Perhaps you don’t want the baby or the pregnancy and that’s completely fine to feel that way. the best thing is to keep your mental health and rights intact while you’re making the best possible decision for your life and your babies. although abortion may be an option for women facing an unplanned pregnancy will be honest to say the choosing life whether it’s with parenting or adoption would always be our choice as long as it is safe for the mother. So this blog article may seem a little biased by choosing life and that’s not always one of the options available to you during your unintended pregnancy but just know that there is no wrong decision as long as you feel the right thing in your heart and can live with whichever path you choose to take with your pregnancy.

Why am I so unhappy about being pregnant?

Happiness in pregnancy does not always go hand-in-hand. Whether you intended to become pregnant or are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy you may not always feel Joy knowing that a baby is on the way. Becoming a mother is a difficult task and comes with a lot of responsibility and the pressure of that can oftentimes suppress the happiness that you would expect and know that she’ll have a baby soon. It’s perfectly normal to feel frustration anger fear anxiety any negative feeling when you realize you’re pregnant no matter what your situation may be. Just know that if this is an unintended or unwanted pregnancy that you have options available to you that could benefit the well-being of your child’s future as well as yourself and the short or possibly long-term. A situation such as working with a local adoption agency oftentimes can bring financial support in terms of healthcare and living expenses until the baby is born. Be sure to do your research and know exactly what to expect before you make a decision on how to handle your unintended pregnancy.


How do I give up my baby?

If you’ve decided not to end or terminate your pregnancy and choose life for your baby we commend you for that. The next step is one you want to take thoughtfully. The safest way is to contact a local adoption agency and work directly with an adoption professional to choose a waiting family who is wanting to adopt a child. In some states, there is a safe harbor law where you can simply take your baby to a fire station safely leave them anonymously and your rights will be terminated immediately and you can move on without your baby. If you feel like you would like to someday know your child or receive pictures and letters or any form of updates knowing how they’re doing in the future it is strongly recommended that you consider a semi-open or open adoption with a waiting family.

What are the obligations of open adoption?

There really aren’t any obligations with open adoption except for the fact that leaves the door open for you to receive a form of contact from the family that adopts your child. Some mothers are comforted by the fact that they receive pictures and letter updates throughout the years on how their child is doing. Some women have no desire to receive any updates and wish to move forward as though the pregnancy never happened. Whether you choose an open adoption and keep contact through the agency or a safe harbor or closed contact either one is fine it is your baby it is your choice you have to remember that.

Parenting or Adoption?

If you’ve decided to choose life for your baby then your next step is deciding if you want a parent or choose adoption is your next step. This is a big decision to make actually in fact all the decisions are big because it comes to the well-being of you and your baby. Be sure to do your research see what other people in your situation have experienced sleep on it possibly pray about it and salt friends or family members that you can trust and make the decision for yourself that you can live with for years to come. No matter what you choose just know that your baby will remain a part of your heart forever. If you decide to choose adoption please search for a local adoption agency in your area and be sure to ask them if they are local or national and make sure that an adoption Specialist or professional can be right by your side and the hospital when you’re giving birth to your wonderful baby.


Christina Swanson

Christina is a professional blog writer that has a big heart for adoption. Choosing life for your baby is one of the greatest decisions you can ever make. This blog is here as a resource to pregnant women and families who are considering adoption or somewhere along the road of their journey.

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